Thursday 2 August 2012

HOW TO GET OVER A RELATIONSHIP IN LESS THAN A WEEK


Edited by Rob S and 21 others

If you want to know how to get over a relationship in less than a week, you have to be willing to let this relationship go. Once you're ready, it's not so hard. Although it usually takes over 7 days to completely rid yourself of that "it's - over" syndrome, you'll be surprised to learn that you don't have to waste a week moping and dragging yourself down. This article is generally more useful for shorter relationships - marriages or more serious relationships can be harder to let go of in such short time. However, seven days following this article will help you on your way to feeling better and getting over your ex.
1. Use the first day to cry it out, and release your feelings. This is the best thing to do, to vent out whatever you feel and just have some alone time. Don't suppress any emotions - confront the things upsetting and angering you and release them, whether it be by crying, screaming into a pillow, or writing it all down.
2. Use your next day to talk it through, and sort things out.
 Use your next day to talk it through, and sort things out. Talk to a friend or someone trusted about what you thought about your ex, but think more about why you broke up. Talking to someone else means there's someone to verbalize your issues with, rather than trying to cope with everything on your own. Spend the day trying to sort things out - remind yourself why you can deal without this relationship and list ways to help you start moving on. This day is for clearing your head and setting yourself a clear sketch of your future without your ex.
3. On the third day, get rid of any possessions your ex gave you. You can keep them if you think they are beneficiary or they bring good memories, but only look at it as a token of friendship, not of your relationship. If they bring bad memories, then throw it out or dispose of it in any way you desire. Don't hang things from your ex all over your room. It shows that you are still obsessed and really into your ex, and anyway, it's just not healthy.
4. Nearing the end of the week, use this day for relaxing and enjoyment. Going out with a friend is a good idea, so they can comfort you and make sure you don't get depressed. Make sure you don't go somewhere that will bring memories of your ex. If you opt to spend the day alone instead, make sure you keep your mind off your ex and firmly on you. Pamper yourself, spend time relaxing, or go out and do something you enjoy to lift your spirits.
5. Nearing the fifth day, focus on yourself. Don't let yourself mope, but rather, spend some time re-working your goals and values and reminding yourself of who you are. Brush up on your independent skills and do whatever you can to make yourself strong.
Remember who you are.
6.  Relax over the next two days. Essentially, you've done all the hard work. But use the extra two days to really stop thinking about your ex, or rather, sort it all out with yourself. Do things to make you happier and healthier and prepare yourself to properly move on.
Act in a respectable manner, always - don't lose your dignity.
Friendship and loving family members are always a good support system after a hard breakup.
Force yourself not to mope or be depressed - let yourself be sad but don't sink into a trap.
Particularly after a very serious or long relationship, you may be left unsure of who you are, and what your true goals are, now that you're single. Spend a lot of time focusing on that aspect of yourself, as it will make you feel more focused and independent.
Remember you are still worthy of love and appreciation. You are capable of being loved and loving others.
When releasing your feelings try to avoid self-injury. I do not condone or praise such actions, I simply ask that you think twice. Because there are so many better outlets that won't leave such permanent and damaging scars mentally, spiritually, and physically.
Through meditation you can get over someone in a matter of 2-3 days minimum, but this works best for short, quick relationships. Using the meditation method for... say, a 2 year relationship wouldn't be healthy.
You might regret what you did.
Not everybody is ready in one week to get through this routine, this is just a guide on how to get on the road to recovery.
Never go out on a date with someone else right after a relationship just as a distraction - it's selfish and in the long term, it won't help you much.

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